Problems

"Dear PRS,
I know you guys are only the PRS but is there something that can help us, like the student council? You know, the grade stuff. I mean, what about us, the less knowledgeable students? It feels like the school is only focusing on the smarter ones and on being a top school. HELP?!?! "

Dear Friend,

We are one of the High Performance School in Malaysia and you should be proud of Sri Aman because of that. The grading system has to be upgraded to achieve a higher standard of excellence. The school isn't only focusing on the smarter ones, what they are doing is challenging us to unleash our full potential. Don't say that you are less knowledgeable or stupid. Everybody is smart and we have to study smart. Try doing a group discussion with your friends about your subjects. Or, you could ask your teachers for help. In class, learn to pay attention to what the teacher is saying and DON'T TALK. I'm sure you will be able to improve your grades.

From,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Dear PRS, I need a help. Why this school teacher gave lot's of homework!! This is too sucks!! With my problems in the hostel, then this school!! How can I surf life as a teenagers also with no problem?? I need your help."

Dear Friend,

You should look at homework as a good thing because once you've done your homework, you do not really need to study too hard because you are learning. Hostel problems should be put aside, and focus more on studies and how it would affect your future later on. And remember that being a teenager isn't all about being jolly. The real life itself has its ups and downs and you should be prepared to face it as it is a part of growing up. Time management is also important. Divide yourself equally between work and play.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Too many staybacks in Sri Aman! Almost everyday stayback! Penatlah."

Dear Friend,

That's our school, love. As a high performance school, we have to excel in everything even co-curricular activities. It's just for a little while, until Sports Day is over. Make sure the clubs that you joined are clubs that you enjoy so it doesn't feel like torture. In a few more months, it will stop but then the BOOKS awaits.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Now that 50 is the passing mark, I'm failing almost everything! I even got a B for English which I've never gotten before. And Maths too!"

Dear Friend,

The world is changing. Standards are constantly getting harder. The only thing to do is to keep up and work harder. The March Test was somewhat a trial. Use your marks to encourage yourself to work harder. With effort, you don't have to worry about the passing marks but achieving the A+ grade.

Remember, almost everyone got terrible marks for March. So you're not the only one in this boat.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Setiap petang , I pergi taman dengan kawan-kawan but my mom tak bagi kluar I boring duduk dekat rumah. So, I just kluar macam tu je. Balik tu I kene marah. Patut ke I duduk dekat rumah je... I'm so bored."

Dear Friend,

First of all, there must be a reason why your mom did not let you go out. Even though it's just the park, maybe your mom doesn't let you because she doesn't want you to hang around and waste your time. Besides that, hanging around the park could also be considered dangerous because there are many strangers. Maybe you should just sit at home and find other interesting things to do at home. Surfing, watching television, or even completing your homework. Studying. Learn to fill your time with good, positive things. Find a new hobby that you'll like.

No worries, be happy!

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Suggestion

"I would suggest this school reopens the chess and badminton club. Close the netball club. I'm not joking (only the signature is fun)"

Dear friend,

Why would you want the chess and badminton to reopen? Maybe the reason it closed down in the first place was because of lack of participants. Besides that, I think netball club is one of the main sports team in our school and almost every school has a netball club. Anyhow, I suggest that you go to see Cik Liew and tell her about your suggestion.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"I've a problem with my dad. He said he doesn't care about me anymore. Because 1 week holiday I went out. And he said I'm too much? What should I do? I've events at Vanity Mansion, KL. What should I do? Cause I'm going to events! :( I need some moneyh! Duhh!"

Dear friend,

Your dad is just concerned about you. It means he cares. You should consider what your dad thinks. Maybe you can try to talk to your dad about it. As for the money, maybe you can do some chores in exchange for money and at the same time, you're doing something nice for your parents. Also, you should consider spending more time with your family and not going out all the time.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Dear PRS, I have a problem here and i need an explanation. I have 3 friends, and only one of them is my best friend but the other 2 gets so jealous because i am always with my best friend. What should i do?"

Dear friend,

A friendship is for everyone to enjoy and appreciate. A true friend will not feel jealous of anything. Try talking to all of them and solve the problem. I am a senior, and i have gone through all these friendship problems, but later you'll realize that any friendship should not be ended because of silly and immature things. Try talking it out because maybe the problem is due to miscommunication.

Love,

PRS Sri Aman.

Problems

"I used to be very hyper and had very nice friends but lately i realized that if i don't talk to my friends, they won't talk to me. Sometimes, they would ignore me. Please help me. I really don't feel like talking to them because they will think i am too sensitive."

Dear friends,

It's normal for people to change through time. What you are experiencing might be different than your friends. Probably, you are maturing faster than the rest. It isn't a bad thing, but certain times you will get really sensitive over a small matter. So i suggest that you calm yourself down before talking to your friends. If you don't feel like talking to them, just keep to yourself for a while. Take time to miss your friends and they will miss you too, so the next time you meet up with them, you will have a lot of things to say to each other.

Love,

PRS Sri Aman

Problems

"This problem keeps bugging me although I try to ignore it. The problem is, I'm having some argument with my friend, EX-BESTFRIEND. We did misunderstood with each other which the point is, I don't really get the problem. If I did hurt her feelings, I ask her to give me one more chance that day. But, she ignore my question and try to avoid me. If she didn't forgive me, should I do the same too or should (still) friends with her in different way?"

Dear Friend,

What happened between you and your friend is something that happens everyday. If you don't understand the problem between you and your friend, you should ask her for her point of view on the problem and not ask for another chance without resolving the issue. Give her time to realise that you are making an effort to make this friendship work. In the meantime, you shouldn't think about not forgiving her and ending your friendship. Treat her the way you want to be treated and who knows, your friendship might become stronger that it was before. Friendship works both ways with both parties, give and take.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"I'm a Form 3 student, yeah I know PMR. I have to stayback nearly every day because of sports, club and more. Once I get home, I only have one to two hours only for resting. After that, I've to go to tuition. Then, do my homework, normally at eleven, I go to bed. The next morning I am so damn tired in class, it's kind of hard to focus because I felt sleepy and tired. What I am supposed to do?"

Dear Friend,

I have to admit that the school schedule is pretty tight but it is for your own good. You should find a method that suits yourself for example a power nap. You sleep for 15 minutes and wake up to continue your homework. To maximise your resting time at home, try to finish your homework in school. Even five minutes between every period is good enough. Try your best to focus in class and avoid unnecessary chatting in class when the teacher is teaching. The more you pay attention in class, the less time you have to spend on revision at home. Last but not least, excercise! It helps one to focus and it helps you to feel more energised.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"There are two people in my class who are so annoying, because they talk a lot in class. So, when the teacher is teaching, they like to ask the teacher silly questions. The entire class hates them."

Dear friend,

Hate is a pretty strong word, don't you think? These two girls enjoy talking a lot and are always disrupting the class because they never pay attention, so why not tell them how you feel? Explain to them how their constant chatting is making it hard for you and the rest of the class to focus on the lesson, and when they ask silly questions, it slows everyone down. Talk to them nicely and don't hate them as they might not be aware of how their behaviour annoys and affects others.

Love,

PRS Sri Aman

Problems

"I have a big problem. I have 3 best friends, who are all fighting amongst each other to be friends with me. What should i do?"

Dear friend,

As you have said it yourself; these three girls are your best friends. Therefore, there should be no reason for them to fight over you in order to be your friend. Include each other in all your plans and don't make anyone feel left out. Be equally nice to all of them, and sooner or later, the four of you will forge a friendship that will last a lifetime.

Love,

PRS Sri Aman

Problems

"I have a 'friend' in class. She is very stuck up and disturbs the class a lot. For example, a teacher gives us a question and let's say she'll just say "Oh teacher, I know." every time. She's also very stingy and likes to snatch things away. She is so stuck up. Please help."

Dear friend,

Firstly, don't treat her the same way. Maybe, all she needs are humble friends. Why don't you try telling her how her behaviour makes you and your classmates feel without being too harsh, and give her the chance to change herself. Maybe you could also politely ask her to give other classmates a chance to answer the questions that your teacher asks. Befriend your classmates, and if it doesn't work, try telling the subject teacher how you feel about her constant brown-nosing.

Love,

PRS Sri Aman

Problems

"My sister keeps on stealing my shoes. What should i do? When i take some of her things, she'll shout at me."

Dear friend,

I am in Form 5 and i have the same problem as you. Older sisters will always be like that, and one thing that you have to do is talk to her properly. Tell her that you don't like how she always takes your belongings without our permission, and that you have no problems sharing as long as she asks you nicely. Secondly, everytime you want to borrow her clothes, ask her nicely and if she still doesn't let you, tell her that you lent her something of yours just recently, and that it is only fair. Besides, isn't sharing caring?

Love,

PRS Sri Aman

Problems

"Hi dear PRS,
You know, our school got SBT right? Yeah! I want air-cond in our hall. I mean like it'll be very useful. For SPM/PMR candidates, they can sit for their exams calmly, imagine us sitting for a MAJOR EXAM panas-panas. Our brain won't work ogayh! Pleaselah, use those 700k for air-conds in our hall. It won't be THAT expensive & yeah I know we're on the GO GREEN campaign thing but its for our own good. THANKS!
P.S=Even normal schools have air-cond in their hall."

Dear Friend,

Don't we all want an air-conditioned hall. But on a practical platform, an investment in air conditioners for the hall doesn't weigh out the many other things we could do with the money. You say the SPM/PMR candidates can sit for their examinations more calmly should the hall be air-conditioned. But, note that these exams carry out only once a year. Keep in mind that not only we have to spend on sufficient amount of air-conditioners, maintenance will cost too. We could use the money for a better canteen, maybe? Or better laboratories, upgrade our washrooms etc.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Hello, my name is Fara and I had a friend that loves to talk like a lot in class. How to make her quiet for once?"

Dear Friend,

Understand that we all have different personalities. Your friend must be a very chatty person and probably doesn't realize she's causing a little discomfort in class. When you feel like you find it difficult to concentrate in class, approach your friend and in a warm and gentle manner, tell her you think she might be disturbing the class and maybe she shouldn't talk so much in class. You could even suggest she finish up her homework in class so she won't have much workload to do at home, and you get the peace and quiet you want. If it still doesn't work out, don't hesitate to write back.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"Haloo prs... pls help me out... i am a short girls trying to grow taller, i am really sad when people call me shorty and i need ur advice how to grow taller so pls tell me the best way to grow taller... plsss i really need ur help"

Dear Friend,

Truthfully there is no way for us to tell you how to grow taller. Wearing high heels might help, but yeah that's it. We think the best way to deal with your problem is by accepting yourself. Be happy with what god gave you. :) Also, don't get sad when people call you shorty, humans are like that, they are quick to judge and they like to give labels. When they call your shorty, correct them by saying "I'm not short, just petite."

Read this. The Advantages of Being Short (It's from the Internet)

• Shorter people are less likely to break bones when they fall, have faster reaction at times, greater ability to accelerate body movements and are less likely to get severely injured in a car accident.
• Shorter people have a smaller impact on the environment. It was found that people averaging 6 feet and 190 pounds can impact human survival by creating more pollution and depletion of resources, such as water, energy and oil.
  
• Shorter people live longer. Bigger bodies need more cells and duplication of cells is limited. But of course you have to eat and live healthily.
  

I hope we helped you build your confidence. Remember, don't be sad, be HAPPY! Write to us again for anything.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"One of my friend has fallen in love. I am scared if her marks will drop."

Dear Friend,

It's very thoughtful that you care about your friend. :)
First things first, be a good friend and tell her that studies are much more important than having a boyfriend. I understand that we all want to be in love and have someone special in our lives but you have to tell her that parents and studies are more important. If she insists on having a boyfriend, its okay. What you have to do is guide her through her studies. Keep on reminding her to never neglect her studies especially when a major exam is near. Moreover, if her marks dropped, make her realize the main problem to why her marks dropped. If her boyfriend is taking too much of her time, tell her that it is time to focus on her education. Remind her HOW IMPORTANT good education is for her future. Sometimes the key is just time management and a lot of effort and focus. If this problem persists, perhaps you should ask her to see the school counsellor or a PRS.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN

Problems

"My best friend sometimes annoy me. She is not my old best friend anymore ... T_T"

Dear Friend,

There is no reason for you to give up on your best friend. Why do you find her annoying? Did she hurt your feelings? Try to talk it out with her because when you identify the problem, then you can find the solution. When you say that she's not your best friend anymore, do you mean she's changed or that you both grew apart?

If you both grew apart, try to rekindle the friendship again. Give her a call, talk to her during recess, just don't stop the contact.

If you mean she's changed, if it's for the better, stay and support her. But, if it's for the worst, then we suggest you to find a much better influence in your life. Best friends are people who are meant to be there for you at bad times and good times. If she can't do that, look for some other good friends.

Write to us again if you're still confused and be more specific next time. :)
We help you help yourselves.

Love,
PRS SRI AMAN